Back to School - And Off to College: A Time of Mixed Emotions for Parents
By: Stephanie Kinnander
Prevention Specialist with the Northeast Prevention Resource Center at the Human Service Agency
It’s that time of year again—back to school! As parents, many of us feel a sense of relief as the routine returns. But let’s be honest: it’s also a little bittersweet. Summer is winding down, and for some of us, that means sending our young adults off to college for the very first time.
There’s pride in seeing how far they’ve come and excitement about what lies ahead. But there’s also a natural wave of worry. Will they eat well? Will they get enough sleep? Will they make it to class on time? And—maybe the biggest one—are they ready to handle the freedom that comes with being on their own?
The college years bring a lot of opportunity for growth, but also come with challenges—especially when it comes to mental health and substance use. As parents, it's helpful to stay aware of the common struggles students face and to talk about them openly before move-in day.
The early weeks of college can be emotionally tough. For many students, it’s the first time they’ve been away from home and their support system for an extended period. Feelings of homesickness, loneliness, and isolation are completely normal - but they can also be overwhelming.
Trying to build a new group of friends from scratch is another big stressor. Everyone wants to feel like they belong, but finding that sense of connection takes time and courage.
Then there are the academic pressures. Classes may be harder than expected, especially for students who didn’t face much competition in high school. For students with ADHD or other learning differences, the new demands can feel even more intense.
Finally, let’s not forget the role alcohol can play. The freedom and unstructured time of college life—combined with easy access to alcohol and less adult supervision—can increase the risk of underage and risky drinking. In fact, the first six weeks of freshman year are considered a particularly vulnerable time.
That’s why it’s so important to talk with your student before they leave. Ask about their concerns, help them brainstorm ways to handle stress, and talk about how to make good decisions—whether it’s finding new friends, getting academic help, or navigating social situations that involve drinking.
Even if they don’t show it, your words still carry weight. One often-overlooked protective factor is the continuing influence of parents. Talk with your student about the dangers of underage and harmful drinking—explain the risks, the legal consequences, and how it can impact academics, relationships, and safety.
Let them know you’re always in their corner, even from a distance. A supportive text now and then can go a long way. Just a simple, “Thinking of you—how’s it going today?” can remind them you’re there, no matter what.
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