Young people who feel threatened, unsafe, or scared often spend a lot of time trapped in fear or in their attempts to protect themselves. They are less likely to venture forth and take some healthy risks.
On the other hand, young people who feel safe are more likely to feel secure enough to try new things. That is why safety is an important part of feeling empowered.
Fear, both imaginary and real, is a normal part of growing up. The key is learning to overcome it.
Safety is
Asset 10 of Search Institute’s 40 Developmental Assets, the qualities, experiences, and relationships that help young people grow up healthy, caring, and responsible.
Media, including social media, fuel reality-based fears, such as crimes and accidents. You may unintentionally add to young people’s insecurity by feeling anxious yourself and believing the world is dangerous.
Young people notice adults’ attitudes and beliefs even if they don’t tell children how they are feeling. Be aware of your behavior, body language, and words—and those coming from others. When you talk to young people about particularly upsetting or frightening events, remind them such occurrences aren’t common. Point out the many ways people take care of one another to be safe.
Building the sense of safety in your child:
In your home and family: Discuss with your child suggestions for how to remain safe in certain circumstances, and role-play situations. For example, create—and practice—an escape plan in case of a fire in your home. Identify a neighbor your child can go to in an emergency.
In your neighborhood and community: Donate your time, materials, or other resources to a local community center where children can safely play or help create other safe activities for young people in your neighborhood.
In your school or youth program: Discuss with young people what it means to be safe at school or in your program. Encourage them to tell you—or other caring adults—if their safety ever feels threatened.
This article is from Kelli Rumpza with Watertown Healthy Youth.